http://makinguptherightway.com/forums/tags/separated-men Relationship Advice for the Suddenly Single en-US Mon, 06 Feb 2012 23:14:43 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q http://makinguptherightway.com/forums/search.php http://makinguptherightway.com/forums/topic/hes-punishing-me-for-following-his-rules#post-5 Fri, 02 Oct 2009 08:37:51 +0000 Hudson 5@http://makinguptherightway.com/forums/ <p>Surprise, surprise! You&#39;re getting an answer! You see, you never know what&#39;ll happen when you cast your bread upon the digital waters. You never know what the universe will float back to you.</p> <p>Anyway, the first thing that strikes me about what you describe is his behavior. It&#39;s a little strange. I mean, first of all, he wants you to date other guys? That is a sure sign that he doesn&#39;t care. And then, he saw your pictures on the dating site and wrote to you from there? Well, how can he be upset with you for being active on the site when he was obviously active, too?</p> <p>IMHO, I think you should drop this guy and move on. Sounds like he just wants to play head games to me. </p> http://makinguptherightway.com/forums/topic/hes-punishing-me-for-following-his-rules#post-3 Fri, 02 Oct 2009 08:25:54 +0000 Elena 3@http://makinguptherightway.com/forums/ <p>I know this forum is new, so I don&#39;t know why I&#39;m even posting here. I think I still have trouble talking about this in the open. So writing here is like writing out in the open, but not really, because no one will read it.</p> <p>You see how confused I am?</p> <p>Anyway, what happened is this: A while ago, oh, I think it&#39;s been four months now, I started dating this man. I have been wanting a committed relationship for a long time now. He said from the beginning that he didn&#39;t. He was in the middle of getting a divorce, you see. So, I said, &quot;Okay, fine.&quot; I decided I wouldn&#39;t take him seriously. That was easy. I saw him maybe every two weeks and he lived far away. So, no problem. I date other people. I barely think of him.</p> <p>Then, last week, two weeks ago, he called me and suggested we take a trip together. It was only for two-three days, but it was wonderful trip. And oh, no, I take a look at him one day and realize that I had fallen in love with him. </p> <p>I was very upset -- very happy, but very upset, too. After all, I don&#39;t think he&#39;s in love with me. I say to myself, &quot;I will not be in love alone.&quot; I must date others. That will keep this relationship in balance, not like it is now -- me in love, he not.</p> <p>So, the next day I go to online dating site -- the one where I met him -- and put up new pictures, to meet new guys.</p> <p>Two days later, I got an email from him -- he sent it from the dating website -- complimenting my new pictures. But there was an undertone to his voice. You know? He was upset. And sure enough, soon after that, he stopped seeing me. I have not seen him since. I don&#39;t understand. I did just what he wanted -- try to see other men, not stay exclusive to him. But he dropped me. </p> <p>What do I do? </p>