http://makinguptherightway.com/forums/tags/separated-men Relationship Advice for the Suddenly Single en-US Mon, 06 Feb 2012 23:31:01 +0000 http://bbpress.org/?v=1.0.2 q http://makinguptherightway.com/forums/search.php http://makinguptherightway.com/forums/topic/hes-punishing-me-for-following-his-rules#post-3 Fri, 02 Oct 2009 08:25:54 +0000 Elena 3@http://makinguptherightway.com/forums/ <p>I know this forum is new, so I don&#39;t know why I&#39;m even posting here. I think I still have trouble talking about this in the open. So writing here is like writing out in the open, but not really, because no one will read it.</p> <p>You see how confused I am?</p> <p>Anyway, what happened is this: A while ago, oh, I think it&#39;s been four months now, I started dating this man. I have been wanting a committed relationship for a long time now. He said from the beginning that he didn&#39;t. He was in the middle of getting a divorce, you see. So, I said, &quot;Okay, fine.&quot; I decided I wouldn&#39;t take him seriously. That was easy. I saw him maybe every two weeks and he lived far away. So, no problem. I date other people. I barely think of him.</p> <p>Then, last week, two weeks ago, he called me and suggested we take a trip together. It was only for two-three days, but it was wonderful trip. And oh, no, I take a look at him one day and realize that I had fallen in love with him. </p> <p>I was very upset -- very happy, but very upset, too. After all, I don&#39;t think he&#39;s in love with me. I say to myself, &quot;I will not be in love alone.&quot; I must date others. That will keep this relationship in balance, not like it is now -- me in love, he not.</p> <p>So, the next day I go to online dating site -- the one where I met him -- and put up new pictures, to meet new guys.</p> <p>Two days later, I got an email from him -- he sent it from the dating website -- complimenting my new pictures. But there was an undertone to his voice. You know? He was upset. And sure enough, soon after that, he stopped seeing me. I have not seen him since. I don&#39;t understand. I did just what he wanted -- try to see other men, not stay exclusive to him. But he dropped me. </p> <p>What do I do? </p>